Individual therapy and Relationship Therapy
There are many resources, readings, thoughts or articles that I come across, receive or hear i.e. listing to the radio. These I share on Facebook and Twitter. There are many links which I update with no particular order, intent or bias. They resound with me and I hope too that you may find some of them will help you.
Two good examples are
Self-help leaflets; https://www.ntw.nhs.uk/pic/selfhelp/
And this webpage. The resources seem endless from diary tips, mindfulness, breathing to downloadable mp3 recordings http://www.get.gg/index.html
The following are links and books that I hope you will find useful. Some are central to the beginnings of sex addiction therapy.
THE ROAD TO BRIGHTON BY PAULA HALL
GARY WILSON – YOUR BRAIN ON PORN
Goes into Porn addiction and much more.
The role of dopamine:
Risk and brain frontal cortex
And this is the link to dopamine and porn/sex addiction showing how it becomes to be so predominant. http://www.nerdgraph.com/porn-effects-on-dopamine-levels/
Understanding and Treating Sex Addiction by Paula Hall
Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective by Paula Hall
Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men by Robert Weiss
Here is a link for vaginismus which has resources http://www.vaginismusawareness.com/
This is from the vulva pain society: http://www.vulvalpainsociety.org/vps/
For prostate cancer and your sex life, Prostate Cancer UK have some great leaflets which you can directly order http://prostatecanceruk.org/prostate-information/our-publications/publications/prostate-cancer-and-your-sex-life
For erectile dysfunction, NHS choices is a good reference site http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Erectile-dysfunction/Pages/Introduction.aspx
Equally too for ejaculation concerns http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/ejaculation-problems/Pages/Introduction.aspx
For anorgasmia, there is more information here http://anorgasmia.net/treatment/
There may be/can be, a desire to use toys in foreplay and sex. From Boots to Fortnum and Mason, there is now a wider choice to discover. However, I’ve highlighted this site (not because of any endorsement kick back – that goes against my code of ethics) but because they attend the College Of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) events and there support goes beyond selling a product, to having a greater depth of understanding how their products can be integrated and work with Psychosexual therapy: a few of which I have listed here
For Premature ejaculation: https://www.sh-womenstore.com/tenga-egg-twister.html
The silicone in these makes the trainers more malleable. Or there are Amielle trainers: http://www.vaginaldilator.co.uk/where-to-buy-vaginal-dilators/
There are many links on twitter and the Facebook page I use to explore the minutia of what brings you to therapy. However, within psychosexual therapy the real resource is yourself or yourselves and the relationship and what is discovered in therapy. I often explain to individuals and partners that the sex life you wish for is to be discovered and to befound in a book. Your truths are here to be discovered.