Resources

Individual therapy and Relationship Therapy

There are many resources, readings, thoughts or articles that I come across, receive or hear i.e. listing to the radio. These I share on Facebook and Twitter. There are many links which I update with no particular order, intent or bias. They resound with me and I hope too that you may find some of them will help you.

Two good examples are

Self-help leaflets;  https://www.ntw.nhs.uk/pic/selfhelp/

And this webpage. The resources seem endless from diary tips, mindfulness, breathing to downloadable mp3 recordings http://www.get.gg/index.html

Sex Addiction

The following are links and books that I hope you will find useful. Some are central to the beginnings of sex addiction therapy.

THE ROAD TO BRIGHTON BY PAULA HALL

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1BHAREf9zmU and there are more videos from Paula Hall ;  http://paulahall.co.uk/resources/

GARY WILSON – YOUR BRAIN ON PORN

https://vimeo.com/51824665

Goes into Porn addiction and much more.

The role of dopamine: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kVoYpiiy7jg

Risk and brain frontal cortex

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jkOl7QIXxlQ re

And this is the link to dopamine and porn/sex addiction showing how it becomes to be so predominant. http://www.nerdgraph.com/porn-effects-on-dopamine-levels/

Books

Understanding and Treating Sex Addiction by Paula Hall

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Understanding-Treating-Addiction-Paula-Hall/dp/0415691915/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1468278451&sr=1-3&keywords=paula+hall

Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective by Paula Hall

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sex-Addiction-Perspective-Paula-Hall/dp/1138776521/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1468278451&sr=1-1&keywords=paula+hall

Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara A. Steffens and, Marsha Means 

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Your-Sexually-Addicted-Spouse-Partners/dp/0882823094/ref=pd_sim_14_6?ie=UTF8&dpID=51K6BazlUEL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR103%2C160_&psc=1&refRID=XSG7TQQ2R3TJGFH5VAXV

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men by Robert Weiss  

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Cruise-Control-Understanding-Sex-Addiction-ebook/dp/B00BAEK96A/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1468278705&sr=1-1&keywords=weiss+robert

Always Turned On Kindle Edition by Robert Weiss  (Author), Jennifer Schneider (Author)

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Always-Turned-Robert-Weiss-ebook/dp/B00RSRK9AE/ref=pd_sim_351_5?ie=UTF8&dpID=41iteKeDbkL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_OU02_AC_UL160_SR107%2C160_&psc=1&refRID=ABEG8QPJ590C475XMV1R

Psychosexual Therapy

Here is a link for vaginismus which has resources http://www.vaginismusawareness.com/

This is from the vulva pain society: http://www.vulvalpainsociety.org/vps/

For prostate cancer and your sex life, Prostate Cancer UK have some great leaflets which you can directly order http://prostatecanceruk.org/prostate-information/our-publications/publications/prostate-cancer-and-your-sex-life

For erectile dysfunction, NHS choices is a good reference site http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Erectile-dysfunction/Pages/Introduction.aspx

Equally too for ejaculation concerns http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/ejaculation-problems/Pages/Introduction.aspx

For anorgasmia, there is more information here http://anorgasmia.net/treatment/

There may be/can be, a desire to use toys in foreplay and sex. From Boots to Fortnum and Mason, there is now a wider choice to discover. However, I’ve highlighted this site (not because of any endorsement kick back – that goes against my code of ethics) but  because they attend the College Of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) events and there support goes beyond selling a product, to having a greater depth of understanding how their products can be integrated and work with Psychosexual therapy: a few of which I have listed here

https://www.sh-womenstore.com/?CO=UK&CID=SN&utm_source=search&utm_medium=text&utm_campaign=brand&gclid=Cj0KEQjw7-K7BRCkkIH3t_WwoskBEiQAD8oY3tgWEVvkZ6rlSeIVINzDFEuVa2O9woJP-B84GeYG5ZUaAnv_8P8HAQ

For Premature ejaculation: https://www.sh-womenstore.com/tenga-egg-twister.html

For vaginismus: https://www.sh-womenstore.com/sh-vibrating-silicone-vaginismus-set.html

The silicone in these makes the trainers more malleable. Or there are Amielle trainers: http://www.vaginaldilator.co.uk/where-to-buy-vaginal-dilators/

There are many links on twitter and the Facebook page I use to explore the minutia of what brings you to therapy. However, within psychosexual therapy the real resource is yourself or yourselves and the relationship and what is discovered in therapy. I often explain to individuals and partners that the sex life you wish for is to be discovered and to befound in a book. Your truths are here to be discovered.

Sex Addiction Diagnostic Tool

Impact of Discovery Information